F.A.Q.

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How do we become Virginia’s Secret members?

To become a member of Virginia’s Secret, you must be a couple or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality.

Why do we have to be members to come to the club?

We require membership to keep our legal status as a private club, which allows us to provide a place where both women and men can "dress down" to a g-string (if they are so inclined) and also assures privacy for all the members.

What if we don't want to "swap" just yet (if ever) but are interested in enjoying the sexually uninhibited environment of the club?

No problem! At Virginia’s Secret, your body is always under YOUR control and the other patrons understand and respect that. Virginia’s Secret is an off-premise club, meaning that it is a place to meet other folks in a "no-pressure" environment. If you are invited to a party (i.e, after-hours) and you don't wish to attend/participate, a simple "no thank you" will always suffice.

What does "off-premise" club mean? or "on-premise"?

That's easy! Put very simply (and perhaps, bluntly), "off-premise" means that sexual acts are not permitted on the club premises. "On-premise" means (obviously) just the opposite.

What kind of people go to Virginia’s Secret?

This is a tough question to answer because this type of lifestyle is common to a large demographic cross-section of people. On the average, there are a large number of professional types of people that constitute our membership. But for the most part, it's people like yourself, who live and work around others, whom you would never suspect that are "in the lifestyle." It may surprise you if you know how many of your friends and neighbors are involved in swinging. Some of the most common similarities between our members are a love of people, making new friends, a VERY strong and secure loving relationship, combined with a love of life and a desire to live it to it's fullest!

What is the average age of the crowd?

The strongest age demographics of the membership are couples from their late twenties to their mid forties, but there are many couples of every age from 21 through the "senior years." With our membership being as large as it is, on any given night there's a good chance you'll find some couples you can relate to at the club.

What goes on in the club?

FUN!!...well that's the short answer. Dancing, socializing, having a good time making new friends - much the same as a regular nightclub. The biggest difference, other than the attitude of the customers, is the overtly sexy dress of the patrons (lots of lingerie). WOW! it's hot in here...

Do the ladies have to dress sexily to attend?

Not at all. You are merely "permitted" to, because this is a private club. There are many ladies that do dress provocatively, and many that don't, so either way, dress to suit your comfort level. All we ask is that you not be surprised (or offended) by this playful behavior and liberal dress code.

What kind of music do you play?

This is another tough one....the short answer? Everything. Being a DJ in this club is a very difficult job (please appreciate their efforts) because, as opposed to most nightclubs (i.e, rock bars, dance clubs, country-n-western clubs, etc) ONE type of music is not the common interest of ALL the patrons. We play "hits" of all types of music, but it's predominately Top-40 Dance with some rock (60's, 70's, 80's, and 90's), R&B, and country thrown in during the night, and the DJ will also take specific song requests from the crowd. If you have a certain song that you would like to hear feel free to ask them to play it. Do keep in mind, however, that not all the patrons have the same musical taste as you, and the DJ's will be doing their best to please everyone, so if you don't like a song being played, as the saying goes about Virginia weather, "wait a minute and it will change". No matter what we're playing, there will always be a lot of sexy bump-n-grind beats for you to dance to. This is a club where people are socializing that you might never have envisioned anywhere else. Our clientele consists of every walk of life from cowboys to attorneys, from construction workers to bankers (and a few we've promised we wouldn't mention!)...and we have never had a "major disturbance" of any kind!

What is NASCA?

NASCA stands for "North American Swing Club Association." It is an association that is based out of Buena Park, CA., whose main function is to promote this type of lifestyle and the clubs that cater to it. Their homepage is located at www.nasca.com .

Why do so many clubs such as Virginia’s Secret prohibit single, unescorted males from becoming members?

Because, this type of lifestyle is typically practiced by consenting couples. If we permitted single men to attend regularly, we would not be any different from any other "generic" nightclub. Some couples do, occasionally, enjoy the company of single males and it is for this reason that we restrict admittance to our club ONLY to single males that are invited guests of member couples in good standing. In addition, we have very specific guidelines that the single men must adhere to while accompanied by a couple. We will gladly elaborate on this at your request.

How do we meet others once we are in the club?

While an open attitude about sexual behavior is a major reason for the club's existance, most couples in the club are primarily interested in making new friends, not just sexual partners. Always remember that the word "hello" means just that - not "let's party." Try to make new friends, and most likely everything else you are looking for will happen. By the same token, actively mingling with other couples is encouraged; we understand that some people are more naturally outgoing than others, but if you are interested in meeting people, the best way to do it is to take the initiative to go up and say "hi!" The same open communication that allowed you as a couple to be able to participate in this lifestyle should be used when talking with other couples. Communication between all parties is the single most important factor for enjoyment of this lifestyle. Just because you are blown away with the great looking person you just met does not mean your significant other will be equally impressed with his/her partner. In other words, don't assume, just ask.

Who should not come to Virginia’s Secret?

Generally speaking, if you are a couple who is secure (very important) in your relationship and are looking for a little extra spice in your bedroom, then you will probably enjoy the club. On the other hand, if your relationship is on the rocks and you are looking for a way to salvage it, try counseling rather than a swing club. Although we certainly like all the business we can get, we would rather see your relationship last. Swinging is recreational more than therapeutic.

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